Accountability and Responsibility
Being accountable and responsible
Accountability and Responsibility
This morning I had a mentoring and accountability session with a female business buddy, who has become a great friend over the years.
The session got me thinking about ‘accountability’ and ‘responsibility’ and how some of the comments my clients say, make me smile.
The sessions with my clients are not all about physical treatments, hypnotherapy or NLP. Often, these sessions are a start to their wellbeing journeys, with me suggesting ‘homework’ for the clients to complete between sessions. This could be anything like an action plan to start to reduce stress, practising their anchoring techniques, starting with simple mindfulness techniques, short meditations, reducing certain foods or drinks, increasing certain foods or drinks, or even going for short walks to improve their physical health.
The comments that make me smile are ones like ‘Trace wont be happy if I do (or don’t) do that’ ‘I better do that to keep Tracey happy’ and other similar comments.
These comments are not about me at all. It’s not down to me to be bothered about whether the clients complete their ‘homework’. I’m certainly not going to be annoyed at them or tut at them.
I do think the clients may use me as excuse though, to ensure they are held accountable for their wellbeing and taking responsibility for it.
So, if you want to improve your health and wellbeing, reduce your stress or anxiety, or want to relax and reduce tension, and feel a little overwhelmed by it all, and that you need someone to help make you accountable, then get in touch for a no-obligation chat.
[email protected] call 07803399594 or book-on line for a consultation time that suits you
How to have self-belief
Simple tips on how to have self-belief
I run a women in business networking group, under the WiRE banner (Women in Rural Enterprise) and yesterday, we had an action learning session about how to say ‘yes’ to something. Ultimately, how to have self-belief.
Although some of the tips are so obviously aimed at women, the whole thought process applies to any gender.
From the meeting, here’s what I noted about the outcome about having self-belief and how to say ‘yes’:
1). Personal belief can often be about old habitual patterns. We learn so much from those we love, care about and those we admire. Phrases we pick up, even as children, can stick with us for years, if not forever. Little comments telling us we cannot do something, will not be any good at something, asking us we think we are better than … etc. etc. can have deep-routed effects.
2). Search deeply why and change your vibration. This can be hard. Here, I really do mean to search deeply within you and ask why you are thinking you cannot do something. Is it a real or perceived thought? Take note of it and turn it around.
3). We are tuned into negative thoughts better than positive, however we cannot think of both at the same time. I’m sure this is some hard-wired scientific explanation that I don’t want to look for right now, but we humans are very good at thinking negative thoughts quicker than we are positive ones. However, we really cannot think both at the same time. If you are thinking negatively, perhaps consider an achievement that can help you to think positively. A great way to alter your thought vibration. The more often you practise it, the easier it becomes.
4). Our thoughts can naturally get in the way and that can be ok, sometimes for the best. Acting on intuition is often a great thing. Perhaps not doing something is for the best. If you REALLY don’t want to do something, then don’t.
5). We default to ‘cant’ so change your thought process to ‘find solutions’ so you can. This came to me when completing a tender document this week. I wasn’t able to apply for the tender in the end, because I didn’t have certain things in place. In this case, the answer had to be ‘no’ but it has encouraged me to find solutions to those problems so that next time, I can easily say ‘yes’ I learnt want I needed to do in order to say yes.
6). Get support. Get a mentor or be part of a mastermind/mentoring group. Get support from those that will encourage you (i.e. WiRE) and not always from your friends and family. Friends and family are not always the best encouragers. In fact, they can be the ones who will plant those negative thoughts into us. Finding support can be difficult but it is there. Use a coach or mentor or join a very supportive networking group. Go to number 7.
7). Tell someone what you want to do, so they can help you find those solutions. Sharing your ideas and your fears within your correct support network means someone can help you find the solutions as detailed in point 5. It is often the case, that someone will have been there and done that and so can advise you on what to do, or not what to do as the case may be, on how to achieve what you really want to achieve. Ask for help.
8). Use Richard Branson’s way of thinking.. “Say yes then work out how”.
9). Think like a man. This is from the story about how a man can apply for a job and get it. If 10 women and 1 man looks to apply for a job, often the man will get it. Why? Because in the job specification, let’s say there are 10 requirements. I will look at numbers 1 to 8 and say ‘yes I can do those’. She may look at number 9 and think ‘well, I can do a bit of that’ and at number 10 she thinks ‘ooh, I cannot do that’, so she doesn’t apply because she does not fit all 10 requirements. A man will look at the 10 requirements and can think ‘nope, can’t do that, nope never done that, eerrmm, I know a little about that one and so on, until he gets to number 10. He knows he can do number 10, for sure, so he applies for the job. Guess who gets the job. Again, this goes back to saying yes to something then learn how to do it, or ask for help.
10) Set deadlines. If you are going to tell someone you are wanting to do something, then set a deadline too. This is where accountability buddies, your support network, mentor etc. will help. If you know you have a deadline by which to complete the task, or even just say ‘yes’, you are more likely to stop procrastinating and getting on with it.
11). Stop worrying about what others may think of you. This is something a lot of women seem to worry about. Do men worry too? Just stop it! If you really want to say yes to something then just do it! Worry about yourself and what you will think of yourself. Have respect for yourself and your feelings.
Just do it!
As you can see, many of these hints and tips are pretty much along the same lines, the same thing said in different ways. I have kept it like that for a reason. Sometimes, something said in a different way can resonate with someone.
If you want to know how you can overcome some fears and personal belief, then I can help as a Belief Change Practitioner and Personal Empowerment Coach and Stress Management Practitioner.
I’m always happy to meet for a no-obligation chat, either at my premises or somewhere neutral. Just call 01889 808388, email [email protected] or use the book now button on the website www.plumessencetherapies.co.uk to book a 1-2-1.
Daisy belief
Mentoring. How it can help you.
Today I have been receiving some fantastic mentoring from Cheryl Turner of Tao Business Solutions. Both Cheryl and I are approved mentors for WiRE. I’m a SFEDI registered mentor but there are times when I need help to do the things that don’t come naturally to me. After all, shouldn’t I be walking my talk? With the correct one to one support and education, at my ability levels, I have gained in confidence in how to produce newsletters and use Twitter and Hootsuite. “Mentoring is a relationship which gives people the opportunity to share their professional skills and experience and to grow and develop in the process” (Office of Director of Equal Opportunities in Public Appointment (Lewes 2000))
Although the quotes below, taken from the SFEDI guidelines, relate to business mentoring, much can be applied to individuals and personal circumstances.
It’s often a lonely place to be when stepping out on your own for the first time or running an existing business day to day, that’s when a mentor can help.
What is mentoring?
A true mentoring relationship is a mutually beneficial experience where the mentor shares their personal knowledge and experiences and promotes a self-discovery approach. A mentor can:
Provide an outside perspective on both the business owner and their business,
Listen confidentially, to the things that are worrying the business owner,
Help by sharing their own experience of both failures and successes,
Give friendly, unbiased support and guidance,
Provide honest and constructive feedback,
Be a sounding board for ideas,
Facilitate decision making by suggesting alternatives based on personal experience,
Provide contacts and networks to further personal and business development,
Inspire the business owner to realise their potential,
Provide on-going support and encouragement.
If you want to consider receiving mentoring, to help you move forward in both business and personal circumstances, Tracey is happy to meet up for a coffee and a chat, or a telephone consultation, with no charge. Tracey feels building rapport and understanding your needs is paramount to having a successful working relationship. All you need to do is make contact by emailing Tracey on [email protected] or calling 01889 808388 or 07803 399594.
If you have to leave a message, I will always return your call. Thank you.
Testimonial received this week:
“A big thank you to Tracey for helping me believe in myself. My life is changing for the better every single day. I have gone from being a person with no self belief to a person who feels like she can achieve anything! Thank you so much Tracey and I’m looking forward to catching up with you soon xxx” Gaynor W, March 2015
